What If I Don’t Like Being Sober?

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Making the choice to live a sober life is a big decision.  Many people choose that option not necessarily because they want to, but because the alternative is worse.  There is a stigma that comes with being sober. Society has taught us that we should seek mind altering substances in order to have a good time, and if we don’t then we are boring.  Most individuals begin to rely on alcohol and other mind altering substances to determine if they are going to enjoy themselves, which is how addiction starts.  

Life in sobriety

When an alcoholic first gets sober, life feels awkward.  It will feel incredibly foreign to spend your days being completely present.  You will be able to remember situations that happened and wake up feeling physically well.  It’s possible the days may appear to drag in the beginning. Many alcoholics use booze to pass the time.  The hunt: the seeking, using, lying, manipulating, and replenishing is a full time job. When you’re no longer doing that, you have time to seek other interests.

A person may have used drinking in attempt to fill a bottomless hole they have inside.  Many
alcoholics, when soul searching after becoming sober, find there was something missing in their life or some deep resentment that caused them to drink.  If you are extremely discontented since you’ve become sober, it may be time to sit down and really explore yourself. Drinking may have caused to ignore your needs and neglect your dreams.  If you feel that you have too much time and not enough to do, soul searching will help you find your passion; something you are good at and enjoy doing besides drinking. It could be rock climbing, hiking, or making jewelry.  You now have the opportunity to explore options life has to offer.

Drinking may also have masked other struggles with mental health, such as anxiety or depression. Often, there is a dual diagnosis with alcoholism and other co-occurring disorders. When the alcohol is removed, the focus can then be on treating and addressing these disorders properly.

Tips for a better sobriety

Many times, an alcoholic will hang around like-minded people because it validates their own behavior.  It’s important to note that when you get sober, being sober isn’t the only thing that needs to change. Sobriety is a lifestyle; it isn’t just a state of being.  If you keep spending time with old drinking buddies, of course you’re going to feel discontent. Deciding to make new friends and hang out in new places makes a world of difference in sobriety.  

You are creating a new life for yourself, all around.  If you feel discontent now, understand it’s normal, yet you have work to do.  Addiction was a full-time job and so is sobriety. Happiness isn’t handed to you.  If you work towards it, you may find a rewarding and pleasurable life waiting for you.  You must do the uncomfortable until it feels comfortable.


Treatment and recovery for addiction should be simple. Simple Recovery offers dual diagnosis treatment for men and women in a multiphase format encouraging growth and development. Going back to school, back to work, or engaging in volunteer work, our clients waste no time starting their new lives as they continue to heal in mind, body, and spirit.
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