Warning: Don’t Let Cupid Strike You with Someone in Treatment


The story of a woman’s struggle with addiction and romance was discussed on Psychology Today in 2014 and she told part of her story like this:

“This is my third round in rehab for booze and meth. And I wanted to go all three times. Every time when I got to the treatment center, I immediately felt better, like being in treatment was safe, you know. At the first place, I got kicked out after about 10 days because they caught me fooling around with one of the guys I met in group. I didn’t mind because we decided to stay together and stay sober after we got the boot. Well, that lasted about two days. He decided that he wanted to get high before we had sex – you know, just to make the sex better. I said OK, and that was that.”

Love is in the air, and Valentine’s Day may have you thinking about your current relationship status. Recovery may incorporate a lot of different things – individual therapy, family therapy, peer support groups, activities, volunteering, job development support and more. Throughout some of your activities in treatment, you may be considering someone you recently met who is going through recovery just like yourself. Between similar values, needs, and a passion for recovery, you may be considering dating them. While it may seem like a clever idea at the time, dating someone within your treatment program could be very dangerous, and here’s why:

You both may be experiencing your own set of physical and emotional issues. Recovery is a time for you to restore your mind, body, and spirit. When all aren’t intact, you may experience aches and pains, cravings, and a roller-coaster ride of emotions. For two people in recovery dating, this could cause a lot of issues that could further hinder one another’s success and could even disrupt chances of remaining in a treatment center. Additionally, if things go awry, you may still have to see each other. Breaking up could cause you to want to leave the treatment center, which could very well set you back from your recovery goals. If you don’t leave, seeing that person could arise feelings that make you want to relapse.

Remember why you started treatment and recall your recovery goals. Through feelings of loneliness, you can always find friendship. Relationships within treatment can be incredibly risky because of the proximity, emotions, and more. Over-confidence can be a precursor for relapse, and so can the challenges that come with being in a relationship. Speak with your therapist to help determine if now is the best time for you to date or not. This planning could very well save your recovery, and your life.

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