How to Be There for Someone Who is Depressed


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Depression is nothing that anyone should take lightly. The World Health Organization says that 350 million people suffer from depression. If untreated, those who are depressed can attempt suicide. Sometimes, it is hard to notice the signs of depression as you could assume someone is just having a bad day or is just pessimistic. It is important to be able to recognize the signs of depression as well as know the right things to say to let your loved one know you care.

Hidden signs of depression can include sadness, emptiness and unhappiness. Your loved one can constantly feel like a failure and that nothing will get better. They could feel depressed for no particular reason. They will lose interest in doing everyday activities like going out, playing games, exercising, and even sex. Many also have trouble sleeping or sleep too much and have no urge to get out of bed. Those who are depressed also have trouble thinking, concentration, easing worries, and remembering. There can even be unexplained physical pain in the back, stomach, or head.

Your loved one is experiencing a range of negative emotions such as feeling frustrated, helpless, fear, anger, sadness, and guilt. Someone who is depressed has barely any energy, no optimism or motivation, and that they cannot just stop feeling what they are feeling. If your loved one snaps at you in anger or hurts your feelings, do not take it personally. It is also important not to ignore the problem that is right in front of you by making excuses or covering it up. It may be intimidating to express concerns to that person in fear of them getting angry at you or feeling insulted but you are not being there for them by doing nothing.

Being there for your loved one is not about fixing their problems but to let them know that you are there for them. Encourage your loved one to talk about their feelings and that you are willing to listen. Let them know you are concerned, noticing, differences, or just checking in. Dig into their problem by asking when they have felt this way, what happened how to support them, and if they have thought about getting help. That things can always get better. Most of all, let that person know you are there for them in any way they need you and that they are never alone.

Depression is commonly co-occurring with substance use disorder. Treatment can be the first time you or your loved one is properly assessed, diagnosed, and treated for dual diagnosis. Simple Recovery offers a multi-tiered program designed to help your loved one find success on a new path in life through school, work, and meaningful volunteering and clinically certified dual diagnosis treatment. Structured for progress, clients at Simple Recovery transition seamlessly through each phase of their recovery.

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