Coping with Death in Sobriety
Death is one of the great phenomenons of life. There is no way to avoid it, yet, many people don’t have appropriate ways of coping. Grief is a lamentable feeling that submerges us under a river of emotion, even when we don’t want to swim. The death of a loved one can cause deep anguish and sorrow, which seems to be endless. Being in recovery and experiencing death is a whole other realm of difficulty for an addict or alcoholic. People may feel like they’re barely holding their head above water as it is, but throwing demise in the picture can be unbearable.
Although it seems impossible, the most important thing to do if you experience the death of a loved one in sobriety is stay connected. Addicts and alcoholics have been unable to deal with the circumstances life has dealt them their entire lives, which is one of the main reasons why they became addicted. Handling strong, intense turmoil is not their strong suit. Most people while in their addiction, if faced with a tough situation, turned straight to the bottle or pipe to ease the pain. Repeating this cycle over and over made it so they never had to face the strenuous feelings. Reaching out to your sponsor or fellowship friends can save your sobriety. Even if you don’t feel like talking, simply having a shoulder to cry on makes a world of difference. Nothing good will come from bottling up your intense emotions.
While it’s important to keep attending your recovery meetings, if that’s what keeps you clean and sober, additional support groups are out there to help. Grief support groups provide similar resources to recovery support groups, and that’s experience, strength, and hope. Grief is like a giant black cloud surrounding your mind wherever you go and whatever you do, and hearing and seeing there is light at the end of the tunnel can be immensely encouraging.
Grief hurts; deep emotional sorrow cannot be undermined and it’s understandable to not want to feel it. However, avoiding grief won’t do anyone any good. It’s going to be awful and feel physically painful at times, but it’s important to just feel. For years, or potentially decades, you didn’t let yourself process or feel any emotion, and now is the time to let you mind and body naturally do what they’re supposed to and work through pain. The absence of your loved one may always leave an ache in your heart, but knowing you made it through clean and sober would make them exceptionally proud.
The answer to recovery is Simple. Our multi-tiered program is designed to help your loved one find success on a new path in life through school, work, and meaningful volunteering. Structured for progress, clients at Simple Recovery transition seamlessly through each phase of their recovery.
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